At its most basic, a relationship goal is an ideal, lesson, value or experience to aim for in your intimate partner relationship. Instead of being unattainable, it should be inspirational. Relationship goals are best viewed as a loose guideline on how to best give and receive love in your relationship, nothing more and nothing less. Just because you don’t have matching Bentleys, doesn’t mean you can’t be besties!
The relationship goals you want to create in your life focus on fact, not fantasy. Couples like John Legend and Chrissy Teigen have been immortalized in the media for their on-point couple goal imagery, but at the same time have gone on to show the fairytale image can also be a real love story.
Two, not one
As a couple, becoming a single entity is an all too easy trap to fall into. All loved up, one can give up your own interest and pursuits, even social life. It is important in any relationship for each individual to maintain their own individuality and independence. Being together enough, you can feel comfortable enough to be apart, with two separate identities in the relationship. #independence
In sickness, and in health
Sometimes things are better, and sometimes things are worse. Sometimes your relationship is well and sometimes it is challenged. Sometimes you’re personally in a good place, and sometimes you’re in a difficult place. In a relationship, to be able to take the good with the bad is a true sign of strength. #allterrain
Growing is good for you – good for you as an individual and good for you as a couple. A wonderful way to keep expanding and challenging each other in a positive way is to make a commitment to learn new skills and knowledge together. The relationship goal of lifelong learning keeps your intellect sharp and interests fresh! #learn
Date night routine
One of the most beneficial real relationship goals to nurture is to make a date night and stick to it. Date night keeps your partner feeling like a lover, gives you a chance to give each other some extra attention and establish the relationship as a priority in everyday life. It’s about making time for each other, be that out and about or at home, set the time aside for each other. #datenight
Handle with care
One of the ultimate couple goals is to really take care of each other. Put each other’s best interests high up in your decisions making factors. Handle each other’s heart space and emotions with respect and like your valued treasure, because what could be more precious?! #handlewithcare
Actively do things for each other
The simplest relationship goal is: don’t take each other for granted! Go out of your way to actively and consciously do, little and big, deeds for each other. #beactive
Honest to goodness
Real relationships are based on authentic people in everyday situations. The best version of you is the real version of you! Our relationship goals are to feel as comfortable in the no makeup, morning breath, sleepy face version of yourself as you do at any other time together #bereal!
Romance never goes out of fashion
Sometimes clichés come in handy. And it doesn’t even need to cost you – do the simple things that will make you both feel loved up. Stargaze, wake up early and watch the sunrise holding hands, have a bubble bath at home. Bring each other breakfast in bed. Be romantic, it is worth the effort. #romance
The trust test
If your partner left their phone within easy reach, and you were alone, would you snoop? Take a peek through their messages, calls or social media? Or are you secure in the reliability of your relationship? One of the fundamental real relationship goals is to have a solid foundation of trust that can stand the test of time. #trust